You masturbate. Your partner masturbates. Both are sexy, but together? That can be crazy hot, too. Of course, mutual masturbation will look different for everyone, but inviting your partner to your next solo sesh can help you unlock a whole new level in your relationship.
Mutual masturbation—touching yourself while your partner watches (and maybe touches themselves, too)—is one of the best ways to combat the monotony in your current bedroom repertoire. So, grab your partner, slip between the sheets, and do what you do best: get yourself off.
Benefits of Mutual Masturbation
Basically, mutual masturbation is like giving your partner a masterclass on exactly how to make you orgasm. And exposing your sexual vulnerability strengthens your relationship, helps you learn more about your partner, and makes sex together that much better.
Here are just a few ways mutual masturbation can reignite your passion and take your sex life to the next level.
You can see what your partner likes.
Mutual masturbation is the best form of sex education, especially if you’re a visual learner. All you need to do is sit back, enjoy yourself, and see how your partner likes to be touched. Plus, you get to hear all the moans, groans, and grunts your partner makes along the way, which can make you feel even more aroused.
And they can see what gets you off.
Even if you’ve been together for years, factors like contraception, age, and medications can all change how your body responds to different kinds of stimulation. Basically, a mutual masturbation sesh is a great opportunity to check in with your partner and show them exactly how you like to be touched.
The way you stimulate your G-spot and clit at the same time for an even more intense orgasm? Your partner gets to see that. The fact that you love to switch up the pressure right before climaxing? They get to see that, too. Chances are, your partner will pick up on some new moves to use the next time you’re in the bedroom.
It’s insanely intimate.
Beyond the tantalizing physical sensations, mutual masturbation is one of the most intimate things you can do with your partner. Of course, having someone inside you is intimate, too. But there’s something special about showing someone how you touch yourself when nobody’s watching that feels even more intimate than penetrative sex.
It feels extra vulnerable to be watched, and revealing how you like to be touched can help you feel even more connected. Try gazing into each other’s eyes as you both get off, or spend some time gently massaging each other with lube before starting your mutual masturbation sesh.
It’s ideal for introducing toys into the bedroom.
Mutual masturbation is the ideal moment to (not so subtly) show your partner how you use your favorite toys. Maybe you like gentle pressure against your clit, or you love going all out with intense, toe-curling double orgasms. Either way, now is your chance to show your partner how great your favorite vibrator works and how you like to use it.
Seeing your vibrator in action might just make your partner less skeptical about using toys in the bedroom—and they might even want to use it on themselves.
It can be the appetizer or the main event.
Mutual masturbation is the perfect foreplay before penetrative sex because it ensures you get a WAP—which is way more comfortable (and safe) for penetration.
And if you’re feeling drained, no worries. Mutual masturbation is a great way for you and your partner to please yourselves when you’re feeling too tired to be truly attentive in the bedroom, but it’s still a connective experience.
How To Make Couple Masturbation Even Better
Just like any type of sex, as long as you and your partner both feel comfortable, there’s no wrong way to do it. If you’re not sure where to start, take a moment to set the scene and connect with each other. Make sure you’re in a comfortable space where you can both relax, whether that’s in bed, on the sofa, or even in the bathtub.
If you’re a first-timer, try experimenting with toys, switching up positions, playing with different temperatures, or trying different types of lube (hint: water-based lube is best for silicone toys). It all depends on what you’re in the mood for at that particular moment.
One of the best positions for mutual masturbation is laying side-by-side so that you’re eye-to-eye and mouth-to-mouth. This way, you’ll be able to gaze into each other’s eyes, kiss, and talk dirty while you touch yourselves. You might even realize that you enjoy being watched (AKA exhibitionism) or that you love watching your partner get off (AKA voyeurism).
To really get the juices flowing, pay close attention to your erogenous zones, including your nipples, butt, and neck. Exploring your body more than you normally do can make the visual experience way more erotic for your partner, but don’t feel like you have to put on a show. Your partner can run the shaft of your vibrator around the tip of his penis, perineum, and balls for some seriously good sensations, too. Remember: if it feels good, it’s fair game.
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At the end of the day, mutual masturbation is all about you. It’s about being gentle with yourself, exploring what feels good to you, and having fun with your partner.
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