Introducing Sex Toys for Lesbian Couples

There is a ton of content about introducing sex toys in heterosexual relationships. But if you’re in a lesbian relationship, you may feel awkward and lonely because there isn’t a lot of information for you out there.

First off, despite what society may believe, sex toys for lesbian couples are not a must (and we’re not all experts in them). You can have great sex with or without them. Just like heterosexual sex, there is a lot of fun to be had with your fingers, mouths, and pretty much any body part. Still, adding some vibrating toys can be a fun way to enhance the experience and explore new sensations together.

So, if you’ve ever asked yourself questions like: ‘Should I use toys for casual hookups?’ ‘When is the right time to introduce a toy?’ ‘How do I approach the topic?’ or ‘What are the best sex toys for lesbians?’ we have some answers for you!

How to Introduce Sex Toys in a Lesbian Relationship

Just like any relationship, hetero or homosexual, communication is key in and out of the bedroom. Creating a safe space to communicate your desires and boundaries is super sexy and will only lead to more satisfying, intimate sexual experiences. It’s no different when it comes to introducing sex toys!

It’s best to start the conversation outside of the bedroom to avoid making your partner feel pressured to say yes in the moment. You can start the conversation by asking them what kind of things they would like to try in the bedroom or by showing them a toy you’re interested in and asking if they would be interested in trying it out with you.

If your partner seems uneasy about sex toys, you can ask what their apprehensions are and if they’d feel more comfortable setting some ground rules to start with (like maybe they would be interested in using it on you but don’t want to be penetrated themselves).

Here are some other pointers to think about when bringing up the topic:

1. Watching porn for women together can help you get to know your partner’s preferences, and you can use it as a conversation starter about introducing sex toys. Something along the lines of ‘Hey, this looks satisfying. Do you want to try it?’ works great.
   
   
2. Wanting to include sex toys into your sexcapades doesn’t mean you’re unsatisfied with your sex life. It also doesn’t mean you want to give up all the other fun stuff you do together. Usually, it’s just a desire to explore new sensations together.
   
   
3. Contrary to popular belief, you don’t introduce toys when things go south. You introduce them when you feel comfortable and trusting to share that with your partner. Tell your partner that you enjoy having sex with them and you’d love to try sex toys for lesbians because you trust them.
   
   
4. Don’t overthink it! There aren’t any rules you have to follow. Don’t feel anxious just because you’re in a lesbian relationship and think introducing sex toys is a must. It’s not. Do it when you both feel like it.

Remember: Start small when exploring sex toys. You don’t have to buy a bunch of new toys. Just find one or two that feel the closest to what you’re doing now. Have fun by browsing sex toys and buying them together! 

Buying sex toys for lesbian couples

When it comes to purchasing sex toys for lesbians or heterosexual women, it all comes down to personal preference. Some women like the full feeling of a girthy dildo, while others may enjoy a tantalizing vibration along the clit. Just think about what you enjoy most out of your current sex life, and then look for a toy that you feel can enhance that sensation.

Of course, one of the major differences when it comes to purchasing sex toys for lesbian couples versus heterosexual couples is that you need to look for a toy that will satisfy two vulva owners instead of just one. Because we’re all different and prefer different sensations, it can be difficult to land on one toy that will satisfy both partners.

In this case, a dual action vibrator could be just what you need.

Dual action vibrators, also called rabbit vibrators, are great for beginners who want to start with something simple, powerful, and versatile. This vibrator style gives you crazy-good external AND internal stimulation, helping you reach the infamous blended orgasm that will have you and your partner testing your new friend’s battery life.

How to use Dual action vibrators for lesbians

Dual action vibrators are a favorite for lesbians because they don’t have to be used just for penetration. You can run the dual heads along the nipples, neck, hips, and inner thighs for an intense build-up. If your partner doesn’t love deep penetration, you can simply rub one of the heads along her clit. And if she does love the penetration, you can start by teasing her, then flip it back around and let it hit her g-spot while you watch her moan with pleasure. 

If you both want to have fun at the same time, mount your partner in a lesbian missionary position, and place the toy between you two. Place one head along her clit and the other head on yours. Take turns holding the toy and playing with the vibration settings until you both find the perfect speed to get you off.

You can also practice mutual masturbation and sit back and enjoy watching your partner get herself off (and vice versa).

Hygiene and safety of sex toys for lesbians

Pregnancy might not be a concern for lesbian couples, but STDs and STIs still are! It’s always important to keep safe and hygienic practices, especially when introducing sex toys. Chlamydia, syphilis, HIV, trichomoniasis, yeast infections, and other STIs and STDs can be spread just as easily through sex toys as they are through intercourse and oral.

To protect you both, clean your sex toys before switching partners or slip a condom over them and change it out between partners. You should also consider regular STI and STD screenings for both partners. And if you like anal play, be careful not to switch from back to front to avoid urinary infections and bacterial vaginosis. 

Experience Crazy-Good Stimulation with Iridescence

The Iridescence is a powerful, rechargeable dual action vibrator that is great for solo and partner play. You and your partner will enjoy the smooth medical-grade silicone, easy-to-hold curved handle, dual pleasure points, long-lasting battery life, and dozens of vibration and intensity combos.

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