Sometimes, dressing up in sexy lingerie or watching some porn might be enough to get the juices flowing. Other times, turning yourself on might not come so easily—and that’s totally normal.
Masturbation doesn’t have to be rushed or hidden, and taking the time to set the mood can help boost your libido when you’re feeling out of it. Even though talking about masturbation is still considered taboo—especially for those of us blessed with vaginas—it can instantly boost your mood and strengthen your mind-body connection. Plus, it feels pretty damn good.
So, the next time you’re looking to turn up the heat on your solo sessions or you’re curious about what makes you tick, here are six ways to turn yourself on for the best orgasms of your life.
1. Show yourself some love
Believe it or not, foreplay isn’t exclusive to partner sex. Just like you’d set the mood with your significant other, show yourself some affection to get yourself “ready” for your sexy solo session. Make yourself feel sexy by slipping on some lingerie or your favorite pair of heels that always make you feel completely irresistible. You can even dance in front of a mirror to get the full view.
Getting “ready” for the occasion will help you feel more confident—and more turned on—without any of the pressure or awkward moments you might experience with your partner.
If you’re looking for something a little more simple, you can always set the mood by drawing a romantic bath, lighting some candles, and turning on some sexy tunes (or, better yet, get your head in the game with an erotic audiobook). From there, you can let your imagination and your toy do the rest.
2. Learn your erogenous zones
Masturbation is all about self-pleasure. You might think you should focus solely on your genitals, breasts, or butt, but your erogenous zones aren’t just limited to those areas. In other words, if you’re not exploring your whole body, you’re missing out on some seriously good sensations.
Remember, your entire body—including your shoulders, neck, legs—is fair game. Next time you slip into the sheets, gently glide your favorite vibrator over your collarbones, along your neck, and down your legs. For an even more tantalizing experience, tease yourself and experiment with different intensities to see what feels best.
By finding these sensitive spots on your body, you’re increasing your arousal, which will make touch feel different (and probably better). You might even pick up a few tips to pass onto your partner!
3. Daydream about old sexcapades
Chances are, there’s at least one unforgettable sex experience you can think of to rev up your engine. Relax, close your eyes, and allow yourself to return to those moments of passion, ecstasy, and arousal.
If reminiscing about your hottest sexual experiences doesn’t get the juices flowing, fantasize about the future. Your sexual fantasies are unique and personal to you, so don’t be afraid to venture wherever your mind leads. Visualize your dream sexual scenario, no matter how wild it may be, and grant your mind (and body) the freedom to engage with it for a hot, toe-curling solo sesh.
4. Supplement solo sessions with visual aids
It’s a myth that women don’t watch porn. Let’s face it: we’re all visual learners, and watching porn can give us the boost we need to jumpstart our libidos. Whether you’re into femme-produced videos, soft porn, or something kinkier, a visual aid is one of the best ways to prime yourself for pleasure.
If porn gives you an icky feeling, don’t worry—you still have other options. Try reading erotica, scrolling through old sexts, or checking out some steamy Netflix series (we recommend Bridgerton, Dark Desire, and Valeria). Whatever you need to do to fuel that fire, do it.
5. Experiment with different positions
If you’re used to lying on your back and using your fingers or sex toys to stimulate your clitoris, experimenting with different positions will completely transform your solo sessions. Try sitting up on your knees and grinding your clit against a vibrator or a soft pillow. Start with slow, hip movements, and gradually build up your momentum until you find a pace that feels good. If you like steady pressure on your clit, this position will drive you wild.
If you prefer lying down, that’s totally fine, too. For an explosive blended orgasm, lift your legs as high as possible and use a G-spot vibrator to reach the internal parts of your clit and stimulate your G-spot.
To get the super soakers going, treat yourself to some playful touching, like gently running your fingers along your inner labia. This is the perfect starting point to get the blood flowing down there, which helps increase your arousal. Plus, you’ll get a feel for what you like, which can help you tap into your WAP energy for a wetter, more intense climax. And if you’re not quite there yet, there’s no shame in using lube to get things moving.
6. Bring out your favorite toys
Your “me” time is priceless, and indulging in self-pleasure creates the perfect opportunity to explore your body and release your inhibitions. Sure, there are endless ways to turn yourself using just your body and mind, but a vibrator can make all the difference during solo sessions.
When it comes to choosing a vibrator, you’ll want something powerful and flexible to tease and tantalize your clit and G-spot to climax. The Iridescence Vibrator is designed for endurance, with 12 different vibration settings, three dominating intensities, and two pleasure points, so you won’t have to worry about fiddling around while concentrating on the more important matters at hand.
Order the Iridescence today to get the juices flowing for twice-as-nice orgasms you’ll be craving again and again.