There are countless ways to slow your mind and meditate, from yoga and breathwork to visulizations and hymns. But there’s one type of meditation you probably won’t find on your guided meditation app: meditative masturbation. This spicier way of clearing your mind can not only help to calm your nervous system and improve your well-being, but it can also bring intense feelings of satisfaction and self-connection.
Whether you’re looking to explore new sensations or show your body some love, meditative masturbation can benefit just about everyone. Here’s what you need to know to enjoy a slower, more intentional approach to self-pleasure.
What is meditative masturbation?
Meditative masturbation, also known as orgasmic masturbation, helps you slow down, pause, and focus on the present moment. The basic concept is simple: instead of only using your breath as a focal point, as you would during a more traditional meditation, you also focus on the pleasurable sensations that ground you in your body.
It might sound a lot like regular masturbation, give or take a few minutes, but practicing mindfulness requires really engaging with your body. And unlike your regular solo sesh, it’s not all about reaching the end goal of an orgasm. While a more intense orgasm is a great bonus, your main goal is to remove any other distraction and prioritize your self-pleasure.
So, instead of focusing on how long it will take you to climax, you center your focus around your body. You might notice that other thoughts come and go, but you should move them to the side and focus purely on your bodily sensations. It’s all about connecting with your body and noticing those feelings.
How does meditative masturbation work?
The best way to try meditative masturbation is to schedule some distraction-free time when you have the time and energy to really get introspective. Before you get started, set the mood by lighting a candle, drawing the curtains, and getting into a comfortable position.
When you’re ready to get started, relax your body with a deep breathing exercise, resting one hand on your forehead and another on your chest. Then, slowly move your hands down to your head, arms, legs, feet, and belly—similar to the body-scanning technique used in many guided meditations.
Once you’re feeling relaxed, it’s time to start exploring your body with a gentle touch. If you’re used to giving your genitals all the attention, try focusing on your erogenous zones. For some seriously good sensations, turn your favorite vibrator to its lowest setting and glide it across your neck, collarbones, nipples, and belly.
Your whole body is fair game here—it all depends on what feels good for you. And remember: a little self-exploration can go a long way. One study suggests that one-third of women need clitoral stimulation to orgasm, and the type, pressure, location, and even pattern of touch varies greatly from woman to woman. So, don’t be afraid to use your vibrator to play with different intensities for more tantalizing sensations.
Throughout your session, keep in mind that this touch is different from the kind you’d use during regular masturbation. Basically, you want to use your breath to “anchor” yourself in the present moment and keep your mind free of any distractions.
Benefits of Meditative Masturbation
Mindfulness helps you focus on your own pleasure and ignite your solo sessions with more intense, mind-blowing orgasms. But on a deeper level, it’s a great way to enjoy a profound, passionate experience with your body. And when you’re searching for the perfect way to unwind at the end of the way, a relaxing self-pleasure session comes with countless health benefits, too.
Focusing on your bodily sensations—whether that’s stimulating your G-spot or teasing your nipples—will help you progress into mindful self-pleasure. If you’re experiencing sexual dysfunction, such as vaginismus or low libido, orgasmic masturbation can help you feel more present in your body. By exploring what feels good to you, you’ll be able to gradually build up your arousal and may even start to notice a more naturally wet and lubricated response to touch.
The most important part of mindful meditation is adopting an open, non-judgemental perspective toward self-pleasure. Through mindfulness, you’ll give yourself the space to explore your body and experience pleasure. By taking the pressure of cumming out of the equation, you’ll learn how to separate pleasure from performance, which can completely transform your mindset toward sex.
Of course, focusing on the mindfulness aspect of masturbation can help you spice up your next solo sesh. Still, all of your orgasms don’t have to center around meditation—and there’s nothing wrong with enjoying more erotic orgasms. The broader your interests, the more enjoyable and healthy your sex life is going to be.
Nourish Your Mind and Body With Self-Love
Meditative masturbation is like giving yourself a gift—one where you’re free to learn, relax, and let go of expectations. Instead of following a set of rules or working toward a goal, mindfulness helps you focus on what you like, which always feels good.
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